Mr. and Mrs. Smith
This movie is actually very important. It's an action adventrure movie to anyone under the age of say 25, but to folks who are a little older, and maybe just a hair more aware of ..well I donno..stuff.. The movie is really about relationships, love, and being together.....
You haven't seen it? You probibly should... It's one of my favorite movies nowadays....
Basically, there's a ton of love there, but they've lost touch with each other... they've sorta drifted apart, and are no longer 'partners'...
Sound familiar to anyone?
Its a movie folks, it doesnt solve the problem, or even offer any real solutions (unless both you and your SO happen to be assassins, and you're both being hunted/being put into a life/death situation where you are kinda forced to depend on each other..), however I think it speaks volumes about our culture, and about how a lot of folks feel, or maybe SHOULD be feeling? How many of us out there are in relationships, and don't even REALIZE that they've stopped working WITH their partner, and are in some cases, at best, simply shareing a livng space....?
At one point, it was different. Folks had more in common.. someone ran the farm, someone kept house...both had the same set of kids... some guy made iron works, his wife did the selling maybe, I donno....
You want solutions? What do I look like, a social psychologist?
*shrugs* my best guess? Make an effort. Look at your partners life, see their interests.. try to be involved. Let Them Know. Try.
Hope for success...It takes both of you, and honestly you can do all the trying in the world.. If your partner can't/doesn't want to/whatever to work with you and try to share some of YOUR stuff, I guess you're doomed to either become someone you're not or move on or something... It doesn't work with effort and understanding on only one side.
I Love Jen. I'm crazy about her. I want us to work out.
I just don't know if its going to happen.....
Would an episode of Justice League kill her?
Going to antique places didn't kill me...
*shrugs*
posted by Fuzzy at 5:59 AM
2 Comments:
Personally I think that if Jen can't come into your world and share some of the things you like with you, then she doesn't really want to be with you.
Relationships are about sharing each other's world as well as having your own world, your identity. You can't be with someone and not want to share your life with them and theirs with you, otherwise, what's the point? Sex partners? That's it?
If your SO can't or won't come into your world but always wants you in theirs, then when do they spend time doing the things that you enjoy?
We all need to understand that it's not a sacrafise to be in your SO's world. It's about wanting to share your lives together and enjoy being together.
We all have and do things that our SO doesn't like or want to do, but there are other things you can do together. And if neither of you can find a single thing that you like in your SO's world, then why be together at all?
Relationships at times can be like servanthood. It may be _us_ who has to be the servant~ over and over again.
I agree with you wholeheartedly on your post. We do need to connect with our other, even if it means doing what they do. Maybe it will take a while before they recognize that they need to give something to us too, but we have to take that risk. Just like our children, we don't "divorce" them when we don't connect, we hang in there.
Why is it that we are willing to work our problems through with our kids, but not our spouses? Just a thought.
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